.But what Astrid doesn't recognize however is a truth that both Ortega as well as O'Hara-- who possesses two boys-- can easily verify: The fact that your relationship with your parents improvements and also progresses as you both grow older, as well as ideally for the better. "Your planet centers around [your kids] when they're children [as well as] it's a great deal job however wonderful," O'Hara points out. "Later, you actually miss out on that, considering that after that you can not obtain all of them to carry out everything you desire them to carry out, due to the fact that they start creating their very own minds, their personal opinions." And also eventually, you find yourself in the location O'Hara, whose boys reside in their 20s and also 30s, discovers herself now, able to gain from her kids. "They're just such trendy young guys," she claims. "I am actually certainly not their buddy, but I like having chats along with all of them and also understanding just how they think about life.".